The Day I Left Home & Emboss Resist Technique

The day I left home, it was 1981; I was 24 and married for almost three months.  No, my husband and I did not live with my parents after our marriage.  I did.  My husband was an active duty Army officer stationed in Germany and he had been in Germany for the entire year prior to our wedding.  I lived in Ohio and I was finishing my last year of college.  He came home on leave one week before the wedding.  The day before our wedding, I was commissioned a second Lieutenant in the Army through the ROTC program at my university.    After a two-week honeymoon in Ft. Lauderdale, Florida in the middle of December (we were married Dec. 20), we arrived back at my parents’ home in Ohio and spent another week together before he was back off to his assignment in Germany.   In February of 1981, I finally left home for Ft. Gordon, GA on my own for a three-month Signal Officer’s Basic Course.  I did not reunite with my husband again until late May or early June of that same year.

The morning I drove out of my parent’s drive was gray and chilly.  The weather definitely DID NOT match my spirits.  I was exhilarated!  I was finally going to be out on my own.  There was nothing my mother could do to stop me now!  I was leaving home “the right way.”  My mother’s words…not mine.

My mother was “old school”.  Born in Italy in 1931 and raised a Roman Catholic, she spent a lifetime mastering the fine art of “feeling guilty”.  She immigrated into the United States at the age of 15, and lived with her parents until she married my father when she was 23.   As I grew up, I was always told that being married and having children was the ultimate thing to experience, and if I did, I would not want for more.  Or….SHOULDN ‘T want for more.  On the few occasions I expressed a desire to be out on my own “without” a husband,   I was threatened with disownment.  I was told that if I did that, I couldn’t count on my parents for any kind of help if I ever needed it.  So, I lived at home.  Telling my parents I was joining the Army was a harrowing experience, to say the least.  It is a story in itself, so I won’t go into it here.  I’ll leave it for another time.  Lucky for me, it was the military that introduced me to my first husband, so when I finally did leave home, it was with full parental (mostly maternal) blessing.  My father always followed my mother’s lead.

Adrenaline was running high through my veins the morning I left.  I was ready for the two-day drive alone.  As I kissed my mother and father good bye, Daddy’s last words to me were, “It’s not too late to change your mind, you know.  You can still fly.”

“No, Daddy.  I am doing this, “and I pulled out into the street.  I turned and waved good-bye.  I haven’t been back to live since.  I’ve been home many times to visit.  And since my children have grown up and are out on their own, I often wonder what my life would be like had I chosen to move back home after my divorce.  I sometimes grow nostalgic for the smells of Northeastern Ohio in the summer where I grew up.  I get hungry for Handel’s Homemade Ice Cream that originated in my hometown.  I sometimes yearn for the close companionship of my extended family on a more regular basis and wonder…will I ever move back?

I still have my mother.  She turned 83 years old this past May.  She is a remarkable woman.  Unfortunately, I lost my father in 2004.  As my mother has aged, she has become more and more progressive.  I love her dearly.  I strive to be like her every day.

Here is my project for this week.  I am using one of my favorite stamp sets again…Kinda Eclectic.

Kinda Eclectic Emboss Resist - 2

I used the emboss resist technique on this card.  What’s that?  Well, I am gonna tell  you!.. 🙂

Using a Versa Mark ink pad, I stamped the image I wanted to emboss.  In this case, it was the sun burst from the Kinda Eclectic stamp set.  I then sprinkled Crushed Curry embossing powder over it and heated it with my heat tool.

Then, I used a sponge and Lost Lagoon ink and sponged over the embossed image, drying to get the color to fade off into a lighter shade in the bottom right corner.  When I finished sponging, I wiped the embossed image off with a piece of tissue to remove the excess ink.  And there you go…the ink does not adhere to the embossed image.  I think this turned out kinda sweet, don’t you?

I hope you enjoyed your visit here today and the time you spent reading my ramblings.  Hope it wasn’t too boring.  Until next time…

Happy Stamping!


Kinda Eclectic Emboss Resist - 1

Four Things I Learned in Catholic School

Some would call me fortunate (or maybe unfortunate) that I had the opportunity to attend a Catholic school as a child from grades 1 through 8, and I also taught in a Catholic school for the first 6 years of my teaching career.   I learned many things both as a child and as an adult.  Many of the lessons have served me well in life.  Here are four of the lessons I learned as a student in a Catholic school in the 1960’s and 1970’s.

  1. Never wear black patent leather shoes with a dress.
  2. Never use a white tablecloth when entertaining a male guest.
  3. Take baths and showers with the lights off.
  4. If you sit on a boy’s lap, put a phone book down first.

What??????? You read them right!  I learned these lessons from a Nun.  Please don’t ask me to remember her name.  It was Sister Mary Something …either William, or George, or Grace, or Albert…it was Mary Something.  All the Nuns were Sister Mary Something when I was going to Catholic school.  And, they all wore those black and white habits.  They wore long black dresses with long black veils trimmed in white with nothing but their faces showing and they wore a long black rosary at their waists, like the Nuns in the movie Sister Act. Everything was covered.  As I entered the middle grades, I remember their strict dress code started to become a little less severe, and they no longer covered everything, although some of them probably should have.  They began to wear shorter skirts and their veils were shorter.  Veils were still trimmed in white, but a little of their hair began to show now.

I think I was in the middle grades when I learned these lessons from a Nun…in religion class.  It was either religion class or when we were learning about sex.  In those days, the boys were separated from the girls and the boys learned about boy sex and the girls learned about girl sex, but we never learned about reproduction sex.  Come to think about it, in Catholic school you learn about sex in religion class.

Anyway, let me explain these lessons.  The first, never wear patent leather shoes with a dress because a boy can see the reflection of your underwear in patent leather shoes.  Honest!  You can’t make this stuff up, people.  Well in the 60’s and 70’s girls very seldom wore pants and patent leather shoes were popular, so I often wondered what would happen if I didn’t wear any?  Underwear.

The next lesson, never use a white tablecloth when entertaining a male guest because he might think it is a bed sheet and get the wrong idea.

Lesson number three; take baths and showers with the lights off so you don’t give yourself any ideas.

And finally number four, if you sit on a boys lap, put a phone book down first.  I don’t think I need to explain this one, do I?

So there you have it, four lessons I learned when I was a Catholic school student.  It is senseless to say when I taught in Catholic school, the religion/sex education classes I taught were much different, most Nuns no longer wore their black habits at all, and finally, we had no Sister Mary Anybody because we had no Nuns.  Some things do change for the better!

My project today is a votive candle box.  I needed a small gift for a friend, and I had an unusual amount of votive candles, so I decided to create a small gift box for a few of them.

Votive Candle Box 1

Here is the tutorial for the box.  You can also download a printable version for free here.

Votive Candle Box Tutorial


Paper:  1 piece of card stock measuring 7-7/8” x 9-1/2”; 3 pieces of designer series paper measuring 1-3/4” x 4-7/8”; 2 pieces of designer series paper measuring 1-3/4” x 1-3/4”.

Accessories:  Adhesive, paper snips, scoring tool, paper cutter, bone folder, sticky strip, 1” circle punch, corner rounder punch.
1.  With the long edge of the 7-7/8” x 9-1/2” piece of card stock at the top of your scoring tool, score at 2”, 4”, 6”, and 8” as shown in the template.

2.  Flip the paper so the short edge of the card stock is at the top of your scoring tool and score at 1-3/8” and 6-1/2” as shown in the template.

3.  As shown in the template, cut away portions shaded in gray.

4.  As shown in template, snip score lines as indicated in yellow.

votive candle box diagram

5. Valley- fold all score lines.

Votive Candle Box 2

6. Flip the piece over so that the folds are forming mountains and add adhesive to the second and third end flaps from the right. (See photo).

Votive Candle Box 3

7. Fold in the sides to form the box. (See next two photos.)

Votive Candle Box 4

Votive Candle Box 5

8. Using the 1” circle punch, center it on the front of the box as pictured and punch out a half circle.

Votive Candle Box 6

9.  Using the corner rounder punch, round the two corners of the remaining flap.

Votive Candle Box 7

10.  Close the box by inserting the front flap that you just used the corner rounder punch on and the two triangle shaped flaps on the sides into the box. If the triangle flaps give you any kind of trouble, remove them. They are not necessary.

Votive Candle Box 8

An Important Note:  This box is not designed for standard size votive candles.  The candles I used are Yankee Candles, which are wider at the top than at the bottom.  They are also a little taller.  Three standard size votives will fit into this box, but you will probably want to add a little tissue paper to cushion them.  In addition, six tea lights stacked in sets of two will also fit well into this box.

I sincerely hope you enjoyed your visit here today.  I have been entertaining out-of-town family for the last two weeks, otherwise it wouldn’t have been so long since my last post.  Until next time…

Happy Stamping!


Votive Candle Box 9

Votive Candle Box 10